Although your partner thinks you’re responsible for most of the troubles in your relationship, it’s not you. It’s your biology. To be more accurate, it's your primitive brain parts. These are your reptilian brain and your mammalian brain/limbic Read More
16 Dec Surviving Christmas as a Couple
Christmas time can be a stressful time for couples. Making joint plans for surviving Christmas ahead of time may help you fill this supposedly joyful season with maximum love and minimum heartache. Joint plans help you manage holiday season stress as Read More
22 Nov 15 Secrets to a Happy Relationship
Would you like to know the secrets to a happy relationship? There are many relationship experts and gurus who tell us they have the “secrets” to your relationship success. Recently I’ve noticed people posting on “secrets to winning him Read More
04 Oct Achieving relationship goals
What are the common mistakes in achieving relationship goals? Most people are good at setting relationship goals, but not so good at achieving them. When you make resolutions and goals to be more attentive, patient, kind, loving, supportive and Read More
30 Aug The Main Causes of Sexual Problems
As a relationship counsellor and accredited sex therapist, I'm sad to know that many people experience sexual problems. I'm often asked some predictable questions about sex, sexuality and the causes of sexual problems. This shows how many people are Read More
30 Jul Are Your Weak Spots Limiting Your Relationship Success?
We all have weak spots in relationships. Last week I was thinking about a famous singer. Something she said inspired me to think about relationship success. At the start of her career she’d realized that, to get ahead in singing, she had to Read More
28 Jun Avoiding disagreements hurts your relationship
Sorry to bring you bad news. But what I’ve learned from doing counselling for over 30 years, backed by research from the Gottman Institute, is that constant efforts aimed at avoiding disagreements hurts your relationship. A lot! The Gottman Read More
29 Apr It takes teamwork to manage emotional pain
Relationships are emotional bonds and disruptions to those bonds lead to emotional pain. It takes teamwork to manage emotional pain. Most important, feelings like love, joy and happiness as well as anxiety, anger and pain may arise at any time. We Read More
30 Mar Nurture Your Relationship
Spending couple time together and doing things to nurture your relationship is very important. This is what the Gottmans call putting deposits into your emotional bank account. Just like a bank account, if you’ve made regular deposits, when an Read More
25 Feb Overcoming Sexual Disappointment – What You Can Do
This blog about overcoming sexual disappointment is adapted from a post written by one my sex education teachers, Martha Kauppi. For my clients who are therapists, I highly recommend you get some training from Martha. You can read her blog Read More
