Hello to all my readers. I’m posting this guest blog by Martha Kauppi, founder of the Institute for Relational Intimacy in Madison, Wisconsin, USA. She talks about the links between sexual intimacy, vulnerability & effective Read More
12 Sep A Relationship Secret No-one Will Admit
Here is a relationship secret no relationship coach will openly admit to you. Real growth is hard. All relationship therapists, counsellors and coaches know this, but let’s dig deeper…. I know, I’m supposed to tell you about how easy building Read More
01 Jul Your Functional Adult and Adaptive Child Parts
We all have relational wounds. This leads us to developing an Adaptive Child part in an attempt to cope with these wounds. None of us escapes without being disappointed, hurt, overwhelmed or left alone sometime in childhood. These relational traumas Read More
04 May Unnatural acts build successful relationships
When couples consistently practice a series of unnatural acts to calm themselves down, while staying connected and protected, they are well on their way to building a successful relationship. I am continually moved by the fearlessness of some of the Read More
28 Feb The Man’s Guide to Women by John & Julie Gottman
If you're a man, are you confused and mystified by your female partner? If so, you're not alone! You may need to read "The Man's Guide to Women" by John & Julie Gottman. This book summarises their 50 years of research conducted on more than Read More
23 Nov How to Manage Holiday Season Stress as a Team
The holiday season is a time of year that can easily overwhelm us. Our relationship may become a low priority during this busy time of year unless we pay attention to it. Below are six ways for you to manage the holiday season while making sure your Read More
22 Sep Learning to say “No” in healthy ways
You may think that learning to say “No” is a simple matter. But this is not necessarily true. We usually expect our partner to respond to requests pretty quickly after we make them. What we often don’t realise is that some requests are not so simple Read More
14 Jul Five Stages of Intimacy
Updated 23rd July 2025 Did you know that there are five stages of intimacy in relationships? These stages develop over time and each stage has specific skills that can be learnt and practiced. We enter into love relationships with Read More
12 May Is your relationship charge gone?
Is your relationship charge gone? You've probably not been taught that relationships require an ongoing investment of attention, time and energy to maintain and enhance their vitality. Relationships are like gardens - they are living Read More
16 Mar “Sexual Intelligence” by Dr. Marty Klein – a review
We all want something from sex otherwise it wouldn’t be such an issue for so many people. When asked what it is people want from sex, in his book “Sexual Intelligence” Dr. Marty Klein, who is a marriage, family and certified sex therapist Read More
