The reactions of your Inner Child and Outer Child aspects arise from the hurt, neglected or wounded parts of our selves that require understanding, support and healing. Because these aspects of our psyche are scared and angry, or feel vulnerable and Read More
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03 May Get Clear on the Myths About Sex
There are so many myths about sex, that it’s hard to know where to begin to debunk them. Sex is much more than people imagine. It’s about connection, pleasure, play and curiosity. It’s about talking, sharing, being vulnerable, balancing safety with Read More
12 Sep A Relationship Secret No-one Will Admit
Here is a relationship secret no relationship coach will openly admit to you. Real growth is hard. All relationship therapists, counsellors and coaches know this, but let’s dig deeper…. I know, I’m supposed to tell you about how easy building Read More
01 Jul Your Functional Adult and Adaptive Child in relationship
We all have relational wounds which result in us developing an Adaptive Child part to cope with these wounds. None of us escapes without being disappointed, hurt, overwhelmed or left alone sometime in childhood. These relational traumas can happen in Read More
28 Feb The Man’s Guide to Women by John & Julie Gottman
If you're a man, are you confused and mystified by your female partner? If so, you're not alone! You may need to read "The Man's Guide to Women" by John & Julie Gottman. This book summarises their 40 years of research conducted on more than Read More
11 Jan Why is it hard to talk about sex?
For many people it’s hard to talk about sex. No matter how much you think you know about the “how-to” part of sex, and the “techniques” for giving and receiving pleasure, none of it is helpful if you aren’t able to talk to your partner about Read More
16 Mar “Sexual Intelligence” by Dr. Marty Klein – a review
We all want something from sex otherwise it wouldn’t be such an issue for so many people. When asked what it is people want from sex, in his book “Sexual Intelligence” Dr. Marty Klein, who is a marriage, family and certified sex therapist Read More
11 Nov Self-soothing and Self-care in Relationship
Today I want to write about self-soothing and self-care in relationship. I think these are such important topics when you are working on improving your relationship. Too many people work so hard at getting things right with their partners, Read More
25 May The Myth That Sex Should Be Spontaneous
Many people believe the myth that sex should be spontaneous. This myth goes hand-in-hand with its twin – the fantasy that sexual compatibility is an “instant fit” and that sex is supposed to be easy, tension-free and uninhibited. These combined Read More
24 Apr Intimate Attachments in Successful Relationships
The importance of your intimate attachments and connections to others cannot be emphasised enough. John Bowlby, the father of attachment theory, studied attachments for his whole life. His opinion was that your intimate attachments to other Read More
