We all have relational wounds which result in us developing an Adaptive Child part to cope with these wounds. None of us escapes without being disappointed, hurt, overwhelmed or left alone sometime in childhood. These relational traumas can happen in Read More
Boundaries
22 Sep Learning to say “No” in healthy ways
You may think that learning to say “No” is a simple matter. But this is not necessarily true. We usually expect our partner to respond to requests pretty quickly after we make them. What we often don’t realise is that some requests are not so simple Read More
14 Jul Five Stages of Intimacy
Did you know that there are five stages of intimacy in relationships? These stages develop over time and each stage has specific skills that can be learnt and practiced. We enter into love relationships with hopes and wishes, but without a manual Read More
11 Nov Self-soothing and Self-care in Relationship
Today I want to write about self-soothing and self-care in relationship. I think these are such important topics when you are working on improving your relationship. Too many people work so hard at getting things right with their partners, Read More
31 Aug How to Build Trust in Your Relationship
Do you know how to build trust in your relationship? At the beginning of a relationship, it is common to have a high level of trust. This means you have a strong sense of confidence that your partner has your best interests at heart and that they Read More
22 Sep Is My Partner Having an Affair?
Is my partner having an affair? This post is adapted from Michele Weiner-Davis. Below is a question many therapists get asked: It's unfortunately a fairly typical and pain-filled question: "Is my partner having an affair? I discovered some emails Read More
01 Jun The 3 A’s: Addictions, Affairs & Anger – Toxic to Relationships
Build your immunity to the three most common causes of relationship unhappiness. These deadly relationship behaviours are the 3A's, otherwise known as Addictions, Affairs & Anger (which includes any acting out or unmanaged mental health Read More
12 Mar Is anger a force for good in your relationship?
Is anger a force for good in your relationship? What happened when you last got angry? Was it a positive experience, or not? When you grew up, how did your family handle anger? How did your partner’s family deal with anger? Clinical psychologist Read More
14 Sep Three myths about happy couples
There are so many myths about happy couples that they can’t even be called myths. Three of these ingrained myths are explained below. Myth 1. Happy couples don’t fight.Myth 2. Happy couples have frequent, hot sex.Myth 3. Happy couples avoid rough Read More
06 Aug The truth about lasting relationships
If you want the truth about lasting relationships, and who doesn't, there is one thing you need to ask a prospective mate. But what is that? Here is my adaptation for Australian readers of what Michele Weiner-Davis has to say on the many myths of Read More
