Terry Real
Many teachers, trainers and authors have inspired me in my journey to become a relationship coach and therapist. I’ve done four webinar trainings in couples work & sex therapy with Dr. Terry Real & Dr. Esther Perel where they addressed the many issues which couples face, especially around power and sexuality. I also did his online webinar training Relational Life Therapy Level 1 in addition to various audio classes.
Terry Real is an internationally recognized Family Therapist and author who has been featured often on Good Morning America and ABC News. Terry founded the Relational Life Institute (RLI), and offers a professional training program for clinicians to learn his RLT (Relational Life Therapy) method.
I have created a series of handouts which combine my 2013 teleseminar trainings with Terry Real and Esther Perel, his “Foundations of Relational Life” training, and my reading of the following materials “The New Rules of Marriage”, “I Don’t Want to Talk About It” & “How Can I Get Through to You?” .
- The Relationship Grid
- Your free Relationship Grid Quiz
- How do you show up in your relationship? Understanding your dysfunctional patterns in relationships – 21 min video
- 3 Steps To Get More Of What You Want From Your Relationship
- A Couples’ Counselor Takes On ‘Normal Marital Hatred’ – article in New York Times
- Our Adaptive child vs our Functional/Wise Adult parts
- Terry Real on Relational Life Therapy – 27/6/22 audio 50:08
1. What Is Full Respect Living?
1a. Practice Healthy Self-Esteem
1b. Emotions Wheel
1c. Feeling Words – Emotion Coaching
2. Practice Healthy Boundaries
2a. Boundaries Visualization Exercise
3. Stay in the Circle of Health
4. Practice Relational Mindfulness
4b. Take a Responsible Time-out
4c. 10 Commandments of Time-outs
6. How-to-Speak-Listen-Respond-2 – Shift From Complaint to Request – How to Speak
6a. i) How to Speak simplified ii) Speak – Set up, Action, Finale
7. Respond With Generosity – How to Listen & Respond
10a. Misery Stabilisers
11c. Five Losing Strategies & Five Winning Strategies
13. Traditional masculinity vs relational intimacy. 14.5 minute video, start at 1 min 28 secs. Accountability, vulnerability & empathy.
14. Love in the 21st Century. 5.09 minute video
15. The New Rules of Marriage. 6.09 minute video
15a. Relationships as Spiritual Practice: A Conversation with Thomas Hübl
16. Self-esteem and Depression in Men. 2.06 minute video
17. Creating Healthy Attachments & Overcoming Abandonment with Terry Real. 4 minute video
18. Esther Perel interviews Terry Real – 37 minute video
20. Why Relationships Fail – 34 minute video
21. Shame & Grandiosity Among Men – 25 minute audio
