We all have weak spots in relationships.Last week I was thinking about a famous singer. Something she said inspired me to think about relationship success. At the start of her career she’d realized that, to get ahead in singing, she had to Read More
Blog Successful Relationships Vivian Baruch
28 Jun Avoiding disagreements hurts your relationship
Sorry to bring you bad news. But what I’ve learned from doing counselling for over 30 years, backed by research from the Gottman Institute, is that constant efforts aimed at avoiding disagreements hurts your relationship. A lot!The Gottman Read More
28 May Why is it hard to talk about sex?
For many people it’s hard to talk about sex. No matter how much you think you know about the “how-to” part of sex, and the techniques for giving and receiving pleasure, none of it is helpful if you aren’t able to talk to your partner about sex. Read More
29 Apr It takes teamwork to manage emotional pain
Relationships are emotional bonds and disruptions to those bonds lead to emotional pain. It takes teamwork to manage emotional pain.Most important, feelings like love, joy and happiness as well as anxiety, anger and pain may arise at any time. We Read More
30 Mar Nurture Your Relationship
Spending couple time together and doing things to nurture your relationship is very important. This is what the Gottmans call putting deposits into your emotional bank account. Just like a bank account, if you’ve made regular deposits, when an Read More
25 Feb What to Do About Sexual Disappointment
This month’s blog about sexual disappointment is adapted from a post written by one my sex education teachers, Martha Kauppi. For my clients who are therapists, I highly recommend you get some training from Martha. You can read her original blog Read More
24 Jan Relationship peace and contentment
Welcome to our first Newsletter for 2019. I hope you've had a peaceful and love-filled time over the festive season.January is a time when many people reflect on the past year and what you'd like to do differently this year. It's often a Read More
21 Dec Holiday Season Relationship Tips
The holiday season is upon us. However you celebrate it, our culture is full of ideas of what to give to others. But how do you give to and nurture your intimate relationship? Even though holidays can be painful for some of us, here are some holiday Read More
27 Nov Mindful Sex
.Mindful sex is when you’re totally and fully absorbed in the physical sensations of your body. Mindful sex doesn’t mean you won't have distracting thoughts. What it does mean is that you practice letting these thoughts to go, whenever they arise, Read More
22 Oct How to manage painful emotions through mindfulness
You can learn to manage painful emotions through mindfulness. Human beings are emotional creatures. We all have painful as well as pleasant emotions. We also have emotions which are “neutral”. These are neither pleasant or painful, according to Read More