This is the time of year to review relationships. Two sets of feelings may be competing for your attention. First, you may be looking ahead with pleasure to the holiday season and the myriad of tasks, opportunities to connect and relationships to Read More
Differentiation
15 Jul Why don’t they think or feel like me?
In my work as a couples coach, I often hear one partner ask "Why don't they think or feel like me? What's wrong with them?" At the core of this confusion is the idea that your partner should think and feel the same as you. They don't. Your Read More
30 Mar Contracts in Relationship
Contracts in relationship exist in every couple. They can be explicit and talked about, or implicit and assumed. If not talked about, they’re based on hidden assumptions. These hidden assumptions are usually wrong because they’re formed Read More
21 Aug Seven Bad Relationship Habits You Need to Break
Bad relationship habits, difficulties and pain occur in all relationships. They are impossible to avoid. This is why we need to learn about, and practice, time-proven principles to address recurring relationship issues. The following list of seven Read More
16 Apr How to Make Intimacy a Daily Practice
Real intimacy is a daily practice. It is a deep engagement with the whole “dance” that couples do together. Basically it's just like learning to dance, when we must learn and practice new steps so we can move more easily through the three phases Read More
19 Dec Helpful Holiday Season Relationship Tips
The holiday season is upon us. However you choose to celebrate it, our culture is full of ideas about what to give to others. But how do you give to and nurture your intimate relationship in ways that don't require spending money? Even though Read More
06 Nov Cracking the CODE of Your Intimate Relationship
Cracking the code of your intimate relationship means learning about emotions. Emotions are core to human interactions. They provide the code, the key, to successful relationships. Emotion regulation and self-soothing skills are essential if you want Read More
04 Jul Managing the Reactions of Your Inner Child and Outer Child
The reactions of your Inner Child and Outer Child aspects arise from the hurt, neglected or wounded parts of our selves that require understanding, support and healing. Because these aspects of our psyche are scared and angry, or feel vulnerable and Read More
28 Feb How to apologise effectively
Knowing how to apologize effectively can help restore lost trust and wellbeing in your relationship. Trust that is violated brings pain to both partners. For the hurt partner, feelings of betrayal can trigger a flood of toxic thoughts and Read More
04 Nov Sexual Intimacy & Vulnerability: Paths to Personal Growth
Hello to all my readers. I’m posting this guest blog by Martha Kauppi, founder of the Institute for Relational Intimacy in Madison, Wisconsin, USA. She talks about the links between sexual intimacy, vulnerability & effective Read More
