Contracts in relationship exist in every couple. They can be explicit and talked about, or implicit and assumed. If not talked about, they’re based on hidden assumptions. These hidden assumptions are usually wrong because they’re formed Read More
Differentiation
21 Aug Seven Bad Relationship Habits You Need to Break
Bad relationship habits, difficulties and pain occur in all relationships. They are impossible to avoid. This is why we need to learn about, and practice, time-proven principles to address recurring relationship issues.The following list of seven bad Read More
16 Apr How to Make Intimacy a Daily Practice
Real intimacy is a daily practice. It is a deep engagement with the whole “dance” that couples do together. Basically it's just like learning to dance, when we must learn and practice new steps so we can move more easily through the three phases Read More
19 Dec Helpful Holiday Season Relationship Tips
The holiday season is upon us. However you choose to celebrate it, our culture is full of ideas about what to give to others. But how do you give to and nurture your intimate relationship in ways that don't require spending money? Even though Read More
06 Nov Cracking the CODE of Your Intimate Relationship
Cracking the code of your intimate relationship means learning about emotions. Emotions are core to human interactions. They provide the code, the key, to successful relationships. Emotion regulation and self-soothing skills are essential if you want Read More
04 Jul Managing the Reactions of Your Inner Child and Outer Child
The reactions of your Inner Child and Outer Child aspects arise from the hurt, neglected or wounded parts of our selves that require understanding, support and healing. Because these aspects of our psyche are scared and angry, or feel vulnerable and Read More
28 Feb How to apologise effectively
Knowing how to apologize effectively can help restore lost trust and wellbeing in your relationship. Trust that is violated brings pain to both partners.For the hurt partner, feelings of betrayal can trigger a flood of toxic thoughts and emotions. Read More
04 Nov Sexual Intimacy & Vulnerability: Paths to Personal Growth
Hello to all my readers. I’m posting this guest blog by Martha Kauppi, founder of the Institute for Relational Intimacy in Madison, Wisconsin, USA. She talks about the links between sexual intimacy, vulnerability & effective Read More
12 Sep A Relationship Secret No-one Will Admit
Here is a relationship secret no relationship coach will openly admit to you.Real growth is hard. All relationship therapists, counsellors and coaches know this, but let’s dig deeper….I know, I’m supposed to tell you about how easy building your Read More
04 May Unnatural acts build successful relationships
When couples consistently practice a series of unnatural acts to calm themselves down, while staying connected and protected, they are well on their way to building a successful relationship. I am continually moved by the fearlessness of some of the Read More
