Many people believe the myth that sex should be spontaneous. This myth goes hand-in-hand with its twin – the fantasy that sexual compatibility is an “instant fit” and that sex is supposed to be easy, tension-free and uninhibited. These combined Read More
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22 Feb Map of Sexual Self-Awareness
Sex is a very complicated subject. Without a clear map of sexual self-awareness how do we navigate the mystery, power, history and paradox of sex? Clear maps are not easily found. So it’s no wonder that many of us struggle with it! Dr. Read More
30 Aug The Main Causes of Sexual Problems
As a relationship counsellor and accredited sex therapist, there are predictable questions clients ask me about sex, sexuality and the cause of sexual problems. How unfortunate that schools and universities don’t offer classes on factual, Read More
28 May Why is it hard to talk about sex?
For many people it’s hard to talk about sex. No matter how much you think you know about the “how-to” part of sex, and the techniques for giving and receiving pleasure, none of it is helpful if you aren’t able to talk to your partner about sex. Read More
27 Nov Mindful Sex
.Mindful sex is when you’re totally and fully absorbed in the physical sensations of your body. Mindful sex doesn’t mean you won't have distracting thoughts. What it does mean is that you practice letting these thoughts to go, whenever they arise, Read More
22 Sep Myths About Orgasms – What All Women Should Know
There are so many myths about orgasms. Orgasms feel different to everyone and are different each time - no two orgasms are the same. For cisgendered women, what you experience in orgasm depends on the context you’re in. Context means - the method of Read More
26 Jun Myths About Sex
There are so many myths about sex, that it’s hard to know where to begin to debunk them. Below are the six most common myths I hear from my clients whenever we discuss their sexual issues. Myth 1. Sex is About Getting Your Needs Met We all have Read More
26 Feb Talking About Sex
Talking about sex is more intimate than having sex. The most important part of cultivating a healthy sex life is talking about a healthy sex life. The Gottman Institute’s research shows that only 9% of couples who can’t comfortably talk about sex Read More
05 Dec Strategies for giving and nurturing your intimate relationship
The holiday season is upon us. However you do or don’t celebrate it, our culture is full of ideas of what to give to others. But how do you practice the strategies for giving and nurturing your intimate relationship? What qualities and Read More
14 Sep Three Myths About Happy Couples
There are so many myths about happy couples that they can’t even be called myths. Three of these ingrained myths are explained below. Myth 1. Happy couples don’t fight. Myth 2. Happy couples have frequent, hot sex. Myth 3. Happy couples avoid rough Read More