Is your relationship charge gone? You've probably not been taught that relationships require an ongoing investment of attention, time and energy to maintain and enhance their vitality. Relationships are like gardens - they are living Read More
Sex
16 Mar “Sexual Intelligence” by Dr. Marty Klein – a review
We all want something from sex otherwise it wouldn’t be such an issue for so many people. When asked what it is people want from sex, in his book “Sexual Intelligence” Dr. Marty Klein, who is a marriage, family and certified sex therapist Read More
25 May The Myth That Sex Should Be Spontaneous
Many people believe the myth that sex should be spontaneous. This myth goes hand-in-hand with its twin – the fantasy that sexual compatibility is an “instant fit” and that sex is supposed to be easy, tension-free and uninhibited. These combined Read More
22 Feb Map of Sexual Self-Awareness
Sex is a very complicated subject. Without a clear map of sexual self-awareness how do we navigate the mystery, power, history and paradox of sex? Clear maps are not easily found. So it’s no wonder that many of us struggle with it! Dr. Read More
30 Aug The Main Causes of Sexual Problems
As a relationship counsellor and accredited sex therapist, I'm sad to know that many people experience sexual problems. I'm often asked some predictable questions about sex, sexuality and the causes of their sexual problems. This shows how many Read More
28 May Why is it hard to talk about sex?
For many people it’s hard to talk about sex. No matter how much you think you know about the “how-to” part of sex, and the techniques for giving and receiving pleasure, none of it is helpful if you aren’t able to talk to your partner about sex. Read More
27 Nov Mindful Sex
Mindful sex is when you’re totally and fully absorbed in the physical sensations of your body. Mindful sex doesn’t mean you won't have distracting thoughts. What it does mean is that you practice letting these thoughts to go, whenever they arise, Read More
22 Sep Myths About Orgasms – What All Women Should Know
There are so many myths about orgasms. Orgasms feel different to everyone and are different each time. No two orgasms are the same. For cisgendered women, what you experience in orgasm depends on the context you’re in. Context means the following: Read More
26 Jun Myths About Sex
There are so many myths about sex, that it’s hard to know where to begin to debunk them. Below are the six most common myths I hear from my clients whenever we discuss their sexual issues. Myth 1. Sex is About Getting Your Needs Met We all have Read More
26 Feb Talking About Sex is Intimate
Talking about sex is more intimate than having sex. The most important part of cultivating a healthy sex life is talking about a healthy sex life. The Gottman Institute’s research shows that only 9% of couples who can’t comfortably talk about sex Read More