If you want to revive your relationship, you need to do more than learn how to fight fair. An important feature of flourishing relationships is that they’re defined by considerable amounts of fun, play, novelty & pleasure. This includes Read More
Romance
08 Jul Five stages of intimacy
In the eighteenth century in the Western world, romantic relationship came into being. Prior to this, there were no socially acknowledged “de facto” relationships, nor were there any relationships based on love. Marriage was governed by the rules and Read More
20 Mar Romantic Love is an Attachment Bond
Did you know that hundreds of studies over the last twenty years support the idea that romantic love is an attachment bond? What this means is that throughout life, humans are wired to seek out and preserve physical and emotional closeness with at Read More
27 Feb How to Pick Your Life Partner
When did you last think about how vitally important it is to know how to pick your life partner? How DO you pick the right partner? Because this is such a big issue for most of us, we tend not to think too much about how to do this. It’s so Read More
07 Oct Improve Your Own Dancing First
As a partner in a relationship, every one of us is involved in a dance. And when we’re on different pages from each other, we might mistakenly feel the need to ‘coach’ our partner on how to be, what to think, or how to improve themselves. In fact we Read More
03 Sep Five hours to a happy relationship
Is it surprising for you to read that all it takes to make your relationship much happier is to give it an extra five hours per week? Five hours to a happy relationship! This was discovered by analysing the research data on satisfied couples. John Read More
22 May Romantic Attraction
Why do some people fall in love at first sight? Why are some relationships full of anger, passion, jealousy and fighting while others are calm, friendly and companionable? Why do opposite yet also similar personality traits attract? Evolutionary Read More
07 Nov Intimacy as a Daily Practice
Real intimacy is a daily practice. It is a deep engagement with the whole “dance” that couples do together. And just like learning to dance, we all must learn and practice the steps so we can move easily through the three phases of relationship Read More
08 May A review of “Sexual Intelligence” by Dr. Marty Klein.
We all want something from sex otherwise it wouldn’t be such an issue for so many of us. When asked what it is we want from sex, in his book "Sexual Intelligence" Dr. Marty Klein, who for more than thirty years has been a marriage, family and Read More
08 Sep Has the Charge Gone from Your Relationship?
Has the charge gone from your relationship? Most of us have not been taught that relationships require an ongoing investment of attention, time and energy to maintain and enhance their vitality. Relationships are like gardens. If you don't tend them, Read More