Is anger a force for good in your relationship? What happened when you last got angry? Was it a positive experience, or not? When you grew up, how did your family handle anger? How did your partner’s family deal with anger? Clinical psychologist Read More
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29 Nov How to bring up sensitive issues
Have you ever struggled for days (or longer) with how to approach your partner about a difficult topic? We’ve all been there with sensitive issues. Waiting anxiously to pick a moment when s/he may be more likely to listen, thinking about the best way Read More
17 Feb Is your partner your friend?
If you answered “yes” to the question "is your partner your friend?", you’re well placed to make your relationship flourish. Keep up the good work! Keep strengthening your friendship bond, it’ll reward you well. Decades of research, combined with Read More
14 Sep Three myths about happy couples
There are so many myths about happy couples that they can’t even be called myths. Three of these ingrained myths are explained below. Myth 1. Happy couples don’t fight.Myth 2. Happy couples have frequent, hot sex.Myth 3. Happy couples avoid rough Read More
06 Aug The truth about lasting relationships
If you want the truth about lasting relationships, and who doesn't, there is one thing you need to ask a prospective mate. But what is that? Here is my adaptation for Australian readers of what Michele Weiner-Davis has to say on the many myths of Read More
10 Mar How to apologize effectively
Knowing how to apologize effectively can help restore lost trust and wellbeing in your relationship. Trust that is violated brings pain to both partners. For the hurt partner, feelings of betrayal can trigger a deluge of toxic thoughts and emotions. Read More
27 Jan Making sure your relationship will flourish
Instead of making New Year's resolutions, why not use January make sure your relationship will flourish? The start of the year is a good time to refocus on your relationship vision, take stock, think through your priorities and plan the year Read More
19 Nov The green-eyed monster – jealousy
Your sweetheart calls you by another's name. His eyes linger too long on your best friend. She talks with excitement about a girl at work. And the fire catches. Jealousy - that sickening combination of possessiveness, suspicion, rage, and Read More
09 Oct What you need to know about intimate relationships
Do you wish you had insight into intimate relationships? Do you find yourself wishing it wasn’t so hard? Do you believe that if you were with the right partner these difficulties wouldn’t be happening? Do you know what relationship problems everyone Read More
24 Jul Contracts in relationships
Contracts in relationships exist between every couple. They can be explicit and talked about, or implicit and assumed. If not talked about, they’re based on hidden assumptions. These hidden assumptions are usually wrong because they're formed Read More
