Sorry to bring you bad news. But what I’ve learned from doing counselling for over 30 years, backed by research from the Gottman Institute, is that constant efforts aimed at avoiding disagreements hurts your relationship. A lot! The Gottman Read More
Communication
29 Apr It takes teamwork to manage emotional pain
Relationships are emotional bonds and disruptions to those bonds lead to emotional pain. It takes teamwork to manage emotional pain. Most important, feelings like love, joy and happiness as well as anxiety, anger and pain may arise at any time. We Read More
30 Mar Nurture Your Relationship
Spending couple time together and doing things to nurture your relationship is very important. This is what the Gottmans call putting deposits into your emotional bank account. Just like a bank account, if you’ve made regular deposits, when an Read More
24 Jan Relationship peace and contentment
Welcome to our first Newsletter for 2019. I hope you've had a peaceful and love-filled time over the festive season. January is a time when many people reflect on the past year and what you'd like to do differently this year. It's often a Read More
21 Dec Holiday Season Relationship Tips
The holiday season is upon us. However you celebrate it, our culture is full of ideas of what to give to others. But how do you give to and nurture your intimate relationship? Even though holidays can be painful for some of us, here are some holiday Read More
31 Aug How to Build Trust in Your Relationship
At the beginning of a relationship, it is common to have a high level of trust in your relationship. This means you have a strong sense of confidence that your partner has your best interests at heart. During this honeymoon phase, you often can Read More
23 Jan Sexual Intimacy and Vulnerability: Paths To Personal Growth
Happy new year to all my readers. I’m kicking off this year with a guest blog by Martha Kauppi, founder of the Institute for Relational Intimacy in Madison, Wisconsin, USA. She talks about the links between sexual intimacy, vulnerability & Read More
05 Dec Strategies for giving and nurturing your intimate relationship
The holiday season is upon us. However you do or don’t celebrate it, our culture is full of ideas of what to give to others. But how do you practice the strategies for giving and nurturing your intimate relationship? What qualities and Read More
06 Nov 3 Tips to Avoid Taking Each Other for Granted
Do you know how to avoid taking each other for granted? There is now a science behind what makes relationships happy. Research by marriage specialists such as Dr. John Gottman, author of the book The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work, and Read More
22 Aug Your Weekly State of the Union Meeting
Since publishing “The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work”, our culture has changed dramatically. These changes led Dr. John Gottman to re-examine his focus only on your relationship to relationship happiness and to add one more hour of time Read More