Certain characteristics and attributes increase the likelihood of relationship success. These characteristics are learnable and teachable. They are skills that a well-trained couples counsellor can teach you. 1. Be self-aware Tune Read More
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28 Feb How to apologise effectively
Knowing how to apologize effectively can help restore lost trust and wellbeing in your relationship. Trust that is violated brings pain to both partners. For the hurt partner, feelings of betrayal can trigger a flood of toxic thoughts and Read More
04 May Unnatural acts build successful relationships
When couples consistently practice a series of unnatural acts to calm themselves down, while staying connected and protected, they are well on their way to building a successful relationship. I am continually moved by the fearlessness of some of the Read More
23 Nov How to Manage Holiday Season Stress as a Team
The holiday season is a time of year that can easily overwhelm us. Our relationship may become a low priority during this busy time of year unless we pay attention to it. Below are six ways for you to manage the holiday season while making sure your Read More
22 Sep Learning to say “No” in healthy ways
You may think that learning to say “No” is a simple matter. But this is not necessarily true. We usually expect our partner to respond to requests pretty quickly after we make them. What we often don’t realise is that some requests are not so simple Read More
12 May Is your relationship charge gone?
Is your relationship charge gone? You've probably not been taught that relationships require an ongoing investment of attention, time and energy to maintain and enhance their vitality. Relationships are like gardens - they are living Read More
23 Jan 10 Minute Relationship Miracle
There is a secret behind the 10 minute relationship miracle. This touching email describes the pain that many people experience when they feel disconnected from their partner: “I get the feeling that my partner is becoming emotionally distant. Read More
06 Sep I Love You But I’m Not In Love With You
I love you but I’m not in love with you. I can’t tell you how frequently I hear these words in my relationship counselling practice! I understand them to mean something like: “Is this relationship really over or does my unhappiness mean that Read More
17 Jul Re-create Your Relationship Vision
Can you re-create your relationship vision once your relationship has lost its energy? Can you get the energy and juice back? Yes, you can. Creating a shared vision helps you regain control of your own story. It helps you re-focus on working Read More
22 Jan Your primitive brain in relationship – the science
Although your partner thinks you’re responsible for most of the troubles in your relationship, it’s not you. It’s your biology. To be more accurate, it's your primitive brain parts. These are your reptilian brain and your mammalian brain/limbic Read More
