I love you but I’m not in love with you. I can’t tell you how frequently I hear these words in my relationship counselling practice! I understand them to mean something like: “Is this relationship really over or does my unhappiness mean that Read More
17 Jul Re-create Your Relationship Vision
Can you re-create your relationship vision once your relationship has lost its energy? Can you get the energy and juice back? Yes, you can. Creating a shared vision helps you regain control of your own story. It helps you re-focus on working Read More
04 Oct Achieving relationship goals
What are the common mistakes in achieving relationship goals? Most people are good at setting relationship goals, but not so good at achieving them. When you make resolutions and goals to be more attentive, patient, kind, loving, supportive and Read More
30 Jul Are Your Weak Spots Limiting Your Relationship Success?
We all have weak spots in relationships. Last week I was thinking about a famous singer. Something she said inspired me to think about relationship success. At the start of her career she’d realized that, to get ahead in singing, she had to Read More
16 May Relationship Rescue – Do you avoid conflict or fight all the time?
People often come to see me when there's a conflict in their relationship and they need a relationship rescue. You just can't have a successful and happy relationship without learning to manage conflict first. This is a crucial step in relationship Read More
23 Dec 4 Tips for Making the Most of Your Relationships
The most central theme of the holiday season is connection. This is the time of year when we make the most effort to reconnect with family and friends to celebrate joy, wonder, and hope. It’s the perfect opportunity to invest in and strengthen these Read More
21 Dec What makes relationships happy really?
Many people ask "What makes relationships happy really?" There is now a science behind what really makes happy relationships and happy couples. The most comprehensive and long-term studies in the field have been done by Drs. John & Julie Gottman. Read More
07 Nov Intimacy is a daily practice
Real intimacy is a daily practice. It is a deep engagement with the whole “dance” that couples do together. And just like learning to dance, we all must learn and practice the steps so we can move easily through the three phases of relationship Read More
07 Aug Love fitness – are you in shape for your relationship?
What are you doing for your own love fitness, so that you're in shape for your relationship? As a relationship counsellor and coach, I constantly hear the laundry list of what people want in a partner. More often than not, the list includes someone Read More
05 Jun What’s your relationship style?
Estimated reading time: 14 minutes You may have a different relationship style than your partner. Couples can be together for many years & still not know what each other needs and wants. Because everyone responds differently in a Read More