Knowing how to apologize effectively can help restore lost trust and wellbeing in your relationship. Trust that is violated brings pain to both partners. For the hurt partner, feelings of betrayal can trigger a flood of toxic thoughts and Read More
16 Dec How to deal with holiday season challenges
For many people, the holiday season means good cheer, family get togethers, celebrating our most important relationships, enjoying good food and companionship. But for some, the holidays can be a struggle because of Read More
04 Nov Sexual Intimacy & Vulnerability: Paths to Personal Growth
Hello to all my readers. I’m posting this guest blog by Martha Kauppi, founder of the Institute for Relational Intimacy in Madison, Wisconsin, USA. She talks about the links between sexual intimacy, vulnerability & effective Read More
12 Sep A Relationship Secret No-one Will Admit
Here is a relationship secret no relationship coach will openly admit to you. Real growth is hard. All relationship therapists, counsellors and coaches know this, but let’s dig deeper…. I know, I’m supposed to tell you about how easy building Read More
01 Jul Your Functional Adult and Adaptive Child in relationship
We all have relational wounds which result in us developing an Adaptive Child part to cope with these wounds. None of us escapes without being disappointed, hurt, overwhelmed or left alone sometime in childhood. These relational traumas can happen in Read More
04 May Unnatural acts build successful relationships
When couples consistently practice a series of unnatural acts to calm themselves down, while staying connected and protected, they are well on their way to building a successful relationship. I am continually moved by the fearlessness of some of the Read More
28 Feb The Man’s Guide to Women by John & Julie Gottman
If you're a man, are you confused and mystified by your female partner? If so, you're not alone! You may need to read "The Man's Guide to Women" by John & Julie Gottman. This book summarises their 40 years of research conducted on more than Read More
11 Jan Why is it hard to talk about sex?
For many people it’s hard to talk about sex. No matter how much you think you know about the “how-to” part of sex, and the “techniques” for giving and receiving pleasure, none of it is helpful if you aren’t able to talk to your partner about Read More
23 Nov How to Manage Holiday Season Stress as a Team
The holiday season is a time of year that can easily overwhelm us. Our relationship may become a low priority during this busy time of year unless we pay attention to it. Below are six ways for you to manage the holiday season while making sure your Read More
22 Sep Learning to say “No” in healthy ways
You may think that learning to say “No” is a simple matter. But this is not necessarily true. We usually expect our partner to respond to requests pretty quickly after we make them. What we often don’t realise is that some requests are not so simple Read More
