There is a secret behind the 10 minute relationship miracle. This touching email describes the pain that many people experience when they feel disconnected from their partner: “I get the feeling that my partner is becoming emotionally distant. Read More
11 Nov Self-soothing and Self-care in Relationship
Today I want to write about self-soothing and self-care in relationship. I think these are such important topics when you are working on improving your relationship. Too many people work so hard at getting things right with their Read More
06 Sep I Love You But I’m Not In Love With You
I love you but I’m not in love with you. I can’t tell you how frequently I hear these words in my relationship counselling practice! I understand them to mean something like: “Is this relationship really over or does my unhappiness mean that Read More
17 Jul Re-create Your Relationship Vision
Can you re-create your relationship vision once your relationship has lost its energy? Can you get the energy and juice back? Yes, you can. Creating a shared vision helps you regain control of your own story. It helps you re-focus on working Read More
25 May The Myth That Sex Should Be Spontaneous
Holding on to the myth that sex should be spontaneous shows how impatient and uncomfortable we are with seduction, playfulness, imagination and eroticism. As Esther Perel says in her book “Mating in Captivity”, all of the above take time, effort and Read More
24 Apr Intimate Attachments
The importance of our intimate attachments and connections to others cannot be minimized. John Bowlby, the father of attachment theory, studied attachments for his whole life. His opinion was that our intimate attachments to other human beings Read More
30 Mar 6 Predictors of Relationship Happiness
As much as we may want relationship happiness, relationships don’t come with a lifetime guarantee. Anyone who has been in a failed relationship will agree that finding an “ideal partner” can be a long process. This is very different from the Read More
22 Feb Map of Sexual Self-Awareness
Sex is a very complicated subject. Without a clear map of sexual self-awareness how do we navigate the mystery, power, history and paradox of sex? Clear maps are not easily found. So it’s no wonder that many of us struggle with it! Dr. Read More
22 Jan Our primitive brain in relationship – the new science
Biology has played a cruel trick on our relationship. Although our partner thinks we’re responsible for most of the troubles in our relationship, it’s not us. It’s our biology. To be more accurate, it's the primitive parts of our brain. Read More
16 Dec Surviving Christmas as a Couple
Christmas time can be a stressful time for couples. Making joint plans for surviving Christmas ahead of time may help you fill this supposedly joyful season with maximum love and minimum heartache. This post is adapted from Shannon McKeogh. Read More