Certain characteristics and attributes increase the likelihood of relationship success. These characteristics are learnable and teachable. They are skills that a well-trained couples counsellor can teach you. 1. Be self-aware Tune Read More
04 Jul Managing the Reactions of Your Inner Child and Outer Child
The reactions of your Inner Child and Outer Child aspects arise from the hurt, neglected or wounded parts of our selves that require understanding, support and healing. Because these aspects of our psyche are scared and angry, or feel vulnerable and Read More
03 May Get Clear on the Myths About Sex
There are so many myths about sex, that it’s hard to know where to begin to debunk them. Sex is much more than people imagine. It’s about connection, pleasure, play and curiosity. It’s about talking, sharing, being vulnerable, balancing safety with Read More
28 Feb How to apologise effectively
Knowing how to apologize effectively can help restore lost trust and wellbeing in your relationship. Trust that is violated brings pain to both partners. For the hurt partner, feelings of betrayal can trigger a flood of toxic thoughts and Read More
16 Dec How to deal with holiday season challenges
For many people, the holiday season means good cheer, family get togethers, celebrating our most important relationships, enjoying good food and companionship. But for some, the holidays can be a struggle because of Read More
04 Nov Sexual Intimacy & Vulnerability: Paths to Personal Growth
Hello to all my readers. I’m posting this guest blog by Martha Kauppi, founder of the Institute for Relational Intimacy in Madison, Wisconsin, USA. She talks about the links between sexual intimacy, vulnerability & effective Read More
12 Sep A Relationship Secret No-one Will Admit
Here is a relationship secret no relationship coach will openly admit to you. Real growth is hard. All relationship therapists, counsellors and coaches know this, but let’s dig deeper…. I know, I’m supposed to tell you about how easy building Read More
01 Jul Your Functional Adult and Adaptive Child in relationship
We all have relational wounds which result in us developing an Adaptive Child part to cope with these wounds. None of us escapes without being disappointed, hurt, overwhelmed or left alone sometime in childhood. These relational traumas can happen in Read More
04 May Unnatural acts build successful relationships
When couples consistently practice a series of unnatural acts to calm themselves down, while staying connected and protected, they are well on their way to building a successful relationship. I am continually moved by the fearlessness of some of the Read More
28 Feb The Man’s Guide to Women by John & Julie Gottman
If you're a man, are you confused and mystified by your female partner? If so, you're not alone! You may need to read "The Man's Guide to Women" by John & Julie Gottman. This book summarises their 40 years of research conducted on more than Read More
