Real intimacy is a daily practice. It is a deep engagement with the whole “dance” that couples do together. And just like learning to dance, we all must learn and practice the steps so we can move easily through the three phases of relationship Read More
07 Aug Love fitness – are you in shape for your relationship?
What are you doing for your own love fitness, so that you're in shape for your relationship? As a relationship counsellor and coach, I constantly hear the laundry list of what people want in a partner. More often than not, the list includes someone Read More
05 Jun What’s your relationship style?
Estimated reading time: 14 minutes You may have a different relationship style than your partner. Couples can be together for many years & still not know what each other needs and wants. Because everyone responds differently in a Read More
01 Apr Wired for Love
In my newsletter for this month, I've summarised the introductory chapter of Stan Tatkin’s wonderful book "Wired for Love”. I make no apologies for the fact that I’ll be using Stan’s own words, because he explains so simply and clearly how Read More
12 Dec A Time to Review Relationships
This is the time of year to review relationships. Two sets of feelings may be competing for your attention. First, you may be looking ahead with pleasure to the holiday season and the myriad of tasks, opportunities to connect and relationships to Read More
16 Nov Bad Relationship Habits to Break
Bad relationship habits, difficulties and pain happen to all of us. They are impossible to avoid, which is why we need to learn about the time-proven principles which are available to address what typically happens in all relationships. The Read More
12 Oct Mindfulness, Empathy & the Neurobiology of Relationships
Practicing mindfulness is extremely helpful if you want to be aware of what is happening in your relationship, especially with regards to your feelings and thoughts in response to what is happening. Inner and outer stimuli affect you, your partner Read More
15 Jun Why Relationships Benefit from Not Talking
Last month, after a few very busy weeks of talking in my counselling practice combined with the end-of-term strain of teaching counselling to students who were worried about their assessments, a sore throat caught up with me. Every time I spoke for Read More
15 Apr Are You Struggling with Dating Anxiety?
If you have dating anxiety, you'll do anything other than looking for a partner online - watch TV reruns, clean the bathroom, complain about your dating troubles, or even call your mother. You freeze up and question yourself repeatedly when it's time Read More
08 Apr Unproven Myths About Porn
Like all myths, myths about porn contribute greatly to panic about the use of porn. This panic is accompanied by large amounts of misinformation repeated endlessly. Dr. Marty Klein says the effect of these myths about porn and their resulting Read More