In my newsletter for this month, I've summarised the introductory chapter of Stan Tatkin’s wonderful book "Wired for Love”. I make no apologies for the fact that I’ll be using Stan’s own words, because he explains so simply and clearly how Read More
12 Dec A Time to Review Relationships
This is the time of year to review relationships. Two sets of feelings may be competing for your attention. First, you may be looking ahead with pleasure to the holiday season and the myriad of tasks, opportunities to connect and relationships to Read More
16 Nov Bad Relationship Habits to Break
Bad relationship habits, difficulties and pain happen to all of us. They are impossible to avoid, which is why we need to learn about the time-proven principles which are available to address what typically happens in all relationships. The Read More
12 Oct Mindfulness, Empathy & the Neurobiology of Relationships
Practicing mindfulness is extremely helpful if you want to be aware of what is happening in your relationship, especially with regards to your feelings and thoughts in response to what is happening. Inner and outer stimuli affect you, your partner Read More
17 Aug Cracking the CODE for Relationships
What sets our good relationships with close and intimate partners apart from those we have with our more casual acquaintances is the quality of the emotional connection we share. Emotions are core to human interactions. They are the code. Without the Read More
15 Jun Why Relationships Benefit from Not Talking
Last month, after a few very busy weeks of talking in my counselling practice combined with the end-of-term strain of teaching counselling to students who were worried about their assessments, a sore throat caught up with me. Every time I spoke for Read More
15 Apr Are You Struggling with Dating Anxiety?
If you have dating anxiety, you'll do anything other than looking for a partner online - watch TV reruns, clean the bathroom, complain about your dating troubles, or even call your mother. You freeze up and question yourself repeatedly when it's time Read More
08 Apr Unproven Myths About Porn
Like all myths, myths about porn contribute greatly to panic about the use of porn. This panic is accompanied by large amounts of misinformation repeated endlessly. Dr. Marty Klein says the effect of these myths about porn and their resulting Read More
31 Mar 5 Characteristics for Relationship Success
Certain attributes & characteristics increase the likelihood of relationship success. These characteristics are learnable and teachable. They are skills that a well-trained couples counsellor can teach you. 1. Be spontaneous Tune into yourself Read More
28 Feb Your Inner Child & Outer Child in Relationship
Our inner child is a term which refers to the hurt "parts" of us, the neglected or abused parts that desire understanding and support. Because they're scared and lonely, feel vulnerable and abandoned, they seek the nurturing they never received. They Read More