The importance of your intimate attachments and connections to others cannot be emphasised enough. John Bowlby, the father of attachment theory, studied attachments for his whole life. His opinion was that your intimate attachments to other Read More
Attachment
17 Feb Is your partner your friend?
If you answered “yes” to the question "is your partner your friend?", you’re well placed to make your relationship flourish. Keep up the good work! Keep strengthening your friendship bond, it’ll reward you well. Decades of research, combined with Read More
26 May Rethinking infidelity…A talk for anyone who has ever loved
A TED Talk by Sex Therapist Esther Perel on Rethinking Infidelity. Esther Perel totally inspired me with her stunning and beautifully written book "Mating in Captivity: Unlocking Erotic Intelligence". Her ideas and methods of working with intimacy Read More
28 May How to create intimacy
It is true that each person & each couple has individualised ideas about what makes up intimacy. Nevertheless there are some common elements of intimacy that recur in modern cultures. What are these common elements? To begin with, here are five Read More
20 Mar Romantic love is an attachment bond
Estimated reading time: 4 minutes Did you know that hundreds of studies over the last forty years or more support the idea that romantic love is an attachment bond? What this means is that throughout life, as a human you are wired to Read More
03 Sep Six hours to a happy relationship
Six hours to a happy relationship? Is it surprising for you to read that all it takes to make your relationship much happier is to give it an extra six hours per week? This was discovered by analysing the research data on satisfied couples. John Read More
23 Jul Do you have normal relationship conflicts?
Normal relationship conflicts come from the many core stresses, opposing values or “dialectical tensions” found in every relationship. These tensions never go away. They are normal real-life discrepancies in wants and needs which are a part of every Read More
22 May What is romantic attraction?
What is romantic attraction? Why do some people fall in love at first sight? Why are some relationships full of anger, passion, jealousy and fighting while others are calm, friendly and companionable? Why do opposite yet also similar personality Read More
02 Feb 10 things you need to know about affairs
I can’t tell you the number of people who tell themselves early in a relationship, “If my partner ever has an affair, I’m outta here.” And then in happens. Their partner was unfaithful. That’s when reality sets in. It’s easy to think you will leave Read More
05 Jun What’s your relationship style?
Estimated reading time: 14 minutes You may have a different relationship style than your partner. Couples can be together for many years & still not know what each other needs and wants. Because everyone responds differently in a relationship, Read More
