Did you know that there are five stages of intimacy in relationships? These stages develop over time and each stage has specific skills that can be learnt and practiced. We enter into love relationships with hopes and wishes, but without a manual on Read More
Differentiation
23 Jan 10 Minute Relationship Miracle
There is a secret behind the 10 minute relationship miracle. This touching email describes the pain that many people experience when they feel disconnected from their partner:“I get the feeling that my partner is becoming emotionally distant. This is Read More
11 Nov Self-soothing and Self-care in Relationship
Today I want to write about self-soothing and self-care in relationship. I think these are such important topics when you are working on improving your relationship. Too many people work so hard at getting things right with their partners, that Read More
30 Mar 6 Predictors of Relationship Happiness
As much as you may want relationship happiness, relationships don’t come with a lifetime guarantee. Anyone who has been in a failed relationship will agree that finding an “ideal partner” can be a long process. This is very different from Read More
04 Oct Achieving relationship goals
What are the common mistakes in achieving relationship goals? Most people are good at setting relationship goals, but not so good at achieving them. When you make resolutions and goals to be more attentive, patient, kind, loving, supportive and Read More
28 Jun Avoiding disagreements hurts your relationship
Sorry to bring you bad news. But what I’ve learned from doing counselling for over 30 years, backed by research from the Gottman Institute, is that constant efforts aimed at avoiding disagreements hurts your relationship. A lot! The Gottman research Read More
29 Apr It takes teamwork to manage emotional pain
Relationships are emotional bonds and disruptions to those bonds lead to emotional pain. It takes teamwork to manage emotional pain.Most important, feelings like love, joy and happiness as well as anxiety, anger and pain may arise at any time. We can Read More
30 Mar Nurture Your Relationship
Spending couple time together and doing things to nurture your relationship is very important. This is what the Gottmans call putting deposits into your emotional bank account. Just like a bank account, if you’ve made regular deposits, when an Read More
25 Feb Overcoming Sexual Disappointment – What You Can Do
This blog about overcoming sexual disappointment is adapted from a post written by one my sex education teachers, Martha Kauppi. For my clients who are therapists, I highly recommend you get some training from Martha. You can read her blog here.Many Read More
24 Jan Relationship peace and contentment
Welcome to our first Newsletter for 2019. I hope you've had a peaceful and love-filled time over the festive season.January is a time when many people reflect on the past year and what you'd like to do differently this year. It's often a time Read More
