To do that, you and your partner have to ask yourself two key questions. “Who am I? What do I desire?” Everything starts with those two fundamental questions. You may have changed from who you were and what you desired at the start of the relationship. It’s important to take a look at yourself and your relationship as they are today.
The next two questions to answer are: “What’s my story? What’s the relationship story I want to create?” You can have a lot of fun creating the story. It’s all about the romance of story. Let your imagination run free. Create a vision of the relationship partner you’d like to be and the relationship you’d love to be in. Share these visions with each other and work together to create a joint story combining the best of your individual visions.
Try to think of your relationship as a kind of myth. A myth is a compelling story that is archetypal, according to the teachings of Carl Jung. It has emotional content and all the themes of a great story: mystery, magic, adventure, doubt, intrigue, conflicts, contradiction, paradox. And romance.
There is no doubt that romance occurs at the start of most relationships. And because this phase, often called the “honeymoon phase” inevitably comes to an end, that’s when you’re bound to feel the energy’s gone from the relationship, or that you have no energy to give to it. This is precisely the time to ask yourself the four questions above and then to start creating the individual and joint vision of what you’d like you and your relationship to become.
Holding this vision clearly in your mind’s eye will provide direction for you. Having a positive vision of the future is the most forceful motivator for change and for success that individuals and couples possess. It will inspire you to think together, dream together, and act together to make a difference in your relationship. Having a positive vision of the future you and your future relationship gives meaning to your present life and provides the blueprint from which you can both draw energy and inspiration. It will keep you motivated as it provides the goal towards which you are both working.
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