A quick questionnaire on attachment styles
A questionnaire originally devised by Hazan and Shaver (1987) has been widely used to measure attachment styles. To get a sense of what type you might be, ask yourself which of the following three statements you most closely relate to:
- ‘I want emotionally close relationships, but I find that other people are often disappointing or mean without good reason. I worry that I will be hurt if I allow myself to become too close to others. I don’t mind spending time on my own.’ (Avoidant Attachment)
- ‘I want to be emotionally intimate with others, but I often find that they are reluctant to get as close as I would like. I worry that others don’t value me as much as I value them. It can make me feel very upset and annoyed.’ (Anxious Attachment)
- ‘It is relatively easy for me to become emotionally close to others. I feel comfortable depending on others and having them depend on me. I don’t worry about being alone or not being accepted by others.’ (Secure Attachment).