- Anger awareness temperature gauge
- Consent – A great series of videos about how to tell & talk about what you & your partner want or don’t want from sex. They address consent, reading body language, verbal communication, setting/respecting limits & dealing with differences in timing & desire. Please share with others – especially your kids.
- Jamming – Great sex, like great music, has soul. You allow yourself to improvise, tune in, go with whatever happens in a spirit of co-operation and fun. Practice makes us less self-conscious, more skillful & more in the moment – just like good musicians jamming together. Jamming can’t be forced.
- Martha Kauppi says: “Sex issues are nearly always at least this complicated. They are tangled up with identity, belief system, culture, relationship, obligation, expectation, hopes, dreams, body, babies, self-esteem, pleasure, and more”. Is your counsellor qualified to deal with this complex issue and to make a clear assessment of what’s happening? Here are some questions for you to ask your relationship counsellor.
- Six Principles of Sexual Health – 1. Consent 2. Nonexploitation 3. Protected from STI’s (Sexually Transmitted Infections) and unintended pregnancy 4. Honesty 5. Shared values 6. Mutual pleasure.
- Guidelines for a Healthy Person and a Healthy Relationship
1) Focus on now. See what is happening in the present instead of what should be, what was or what could be.
2) Feel your feelings. Feel what you do feel instead of what you think you ought to be feeling.
3) Speak up. Say what you feel and think instead of what you imagine is expected of you. Be tactful as well as honest.
4) Say what you want clearly and directly instead of hoping it will be offered.
5) Take risks in your own behalf instead of settling for the status quo.
6) Learn to say no firmly, kindly and unmistakably.
7) Learn to hear no with good grace.
These guidelines can be applied to one’s sexual life as much as they can be applied to the other issues that often come up in relationship therapy.
- World Association of Sexual Health (WAS) Declaration of Sexual Rights
- The right to sexual freedom.
- The right to sexual autonomy, sexual integrity, and safety of the sexual body.
- The right to sexual privacy.
- The right to sexual equity.
- The right to sexual pleasure.
- The right to emotional sexual expression.
- The right to sexually associate freely.
- The right to make free and responsible reproductive choices.
- The right to sexual information based upon scientific inquiry.
- The right to comprehensive sexuality education.
- The right to sexual health care.