How happy are you in your relationship? Do you know there’s now a science which can help tell if your relationship is really happy? Take the free quiz devised by Drs John & Julie Gottman and find out the current state of your relationship. This quiz is based on 40 years of research on how to create happy relationships and how to heal unhappy ones.
I’ve been in practice as a relationship coach, counsellor and therapist for over thirty years. There’s not much I haven’t seen and heard about unhappiness in human relationships. When I first started helping clients sort through relationship difficulties, there were only a few models of counselling and therapy which applied specifically to couples. And relationship coaching didn’t even exist!
Since my early years of working in the 1980’s, counselling and therapy theories have multiplied exponentially. There are now over 400 different theories counsellors can draw from, although not all of them are useful for couples. No single counsellor can be good at all these ways of working with your particular relationship problems. Listen to my audio so you can be sure that your counsellor’s well-trained in couples work.
Only a few of these 400 theories are grounded in solid relationship research about what makes relationships happy in the real world. I have post-graduate training in seven of the most well-respected couples counselling and coaching methods around. In working with me you can feel confident that I’ve been helping individuals and couples create healthy and happy relationships for over three decades.
My way of helping you is not a cookie-cutter, one size fits all approach. It’s tailor-made for you and your relationship, based on sound research, supplemented by my training and experience. Because you are two unique individuals who have formed a unique relationship, I adapt my work to suit your needs and goals. We work together to devise clear steps to reach your goals for your relationship. The Gottmans have created a master recipe of how relationships work or fail based on their 40 years of research. Like any good relationship coach, I adapt this recipe to make it very specific and constructive for your unique relationship needs.
To give you an overview, outcome research in couples counselling shows that coaching/counselling for failing relationships must help you accomplish three main goals:
1. To calm down negative emotions and stop their escalation during conflicts
2. To increase positive emotions during conflicts
3. To increase positive emotions outside of conflicts.
I have very specific skills you can learn to achieve the above three goals plus skills in how to deal with another very common couple problem – emotional distance and disengagement. Do these problems sound familiar? If so, you may be in need of urgent help. Seek help early. Don’t wait 6 years, which is what the average couple does. Don’t be average and join the statistics of those who separate or divorce.
If you’ve already separated and are in a new relationship, don’t take your old relationship habits with you. If you choose to do the work, and it does involve you doing work, there are many ways to turn unhappy relationships into happy ones. Together we can devise a tailor-made toolkit for your relationship.
Call me on me on +61 421 961 687 or email me. I have three ways I can help you and your relationship:
1) regular in-person sessions
2) online couples coaching, if you can’t make it to either my Newtown or Faulconbridge practices
3) attend a two day couples intensive, where you get 16 hours of couples coaching to quickly boost your relationship happiness.
You deserve the best if you’re planning to invest time and money in your relationship. If you’re not ready to book an appointment, call me on (0421) 961 687 to book a FREE 10 minute phone consultation to discuss how I may be able to assist you.